Sometimes, you have to go down the completely wrong and self-destructive path, and do the completely wrong and unhealthy things, in order to learn and find your way back onto the right path. Like the phoenix – whose self-destruction causes her to re-emerge even more beautiful and wiser.

For much of your life, you live according to a plan – whether your own or your parents’ or some other societal entity. This plan is ultimately for your own good. You realize this, which is why you go about following it.

But there comes a time when, for various reasons, you’re unable to follow the plan. Deep-rooted problems surface, questions unanswered, dissatisfaction, physical, hormonal or mental ills. Whatever the case, it pushes you to leave the planned path and dabble in something you know is destructive.

Love, relationships and marriage are never easy. We may fool ourselves into thinking they’re easy, and we may even believe it for years, but, sooner or later, when things start happening to “rock the boat,” we learn just how true and strong our love, relationships and marriage really are. We come to learn the power of unconditional and eternal love.

When it comes to matters of the heart, of love and life, if it is meant to be, it will be. Simple as that. But, what you must realize is that it is a choice – people ultimately choose what is meant to be.”

The truth is, we have complete control over what happens or doesn’t happen in love. It is our actions and reactions, our choices & decisions that truly define our ‘meant to be.’ Everything in love is a choice – often choices you make not even knowing any better at the time. That is why learning as much as you can, about life, relationships and love, is so important, because then only can you make educated, correct choices. When it comes to matters of the heart, of love and life, if it is meant to be, it will be. Simple as that. But, what you must realize is that it is a choice – people ultimately choose what is meant to be.